The Blog
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3 Tips to Stop Overthinking From a Therapist
Understanding Why You Overthink Is Only Half the Story Understanding why you overthink can be incredibly validating. It helps you realise that you are not crazy and you are not stuck here. You mind and nervous system is truly trying to protect you in the only way it has learned. You can understand different reason…
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Why Can’t I Stop Overthinking?
By Carly Ann – Psychotherapist Overthinking is one of the most common reasons people seek therapy. You probably know how it feels when you’re spiralling – relentless, exhausting, and impossible to switch off. I’ve been working in mental health for 15+ years, overthinking shows up in different ways for different people. You may find yourself…
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REFRAME NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
This one is very much inspired to client conversations! A lot of the time, our thoughts feel like facts… but they’re often not true. When you’re anxious or struggling with self-worth, your mind can tell you things that sound real, like “I’m not good enough” or “Something will go wrong” But most of the time, these thoughts are opinions,…
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The Rejection Wounds
I want to offer you a little experiment for when you’re sitting in rejection. The “well, that didn’t go how I hoped” feeling. Or worse, the silence that feels like a no but you’re not quite sure. Before you spiral and turn this into a story about your worth or capabilities, ask: “What if this…
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Love is Not a Pie: How to Handle Jealousy Without Losing Yourself
Have you ever felt that sharp pang in your chest when your partner or friend shows attention to someone else? That instant rush of worry, fear, or comparison? That’s jealousy – and you’re not alone. Almost everyone experiences it at some point, yet many of us struggle to understand it without judging ourselves. I’m Carly…
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Why Low Self-Esteem Persists and How to Break the Pattern: Therapist Explains
Understanding Low Self-Esteem and Feeling Not Good Enough If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or feeling not good enough, and it affects your anxiety or general wellbeing – I am pleased you’re here because this is a space for people determined to KNOW their worth. It is so tough when you look happy and…
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Self-Soothing in the Moment˙
Why Self-Soothing Doesn’t Always Work in the Moment (And What Actually Helps) If you’ve ever tried to calm yourself during a wave of anxiety and found that the techniques you learned didn’t seem to work, you’re not alone. Many people ask why they struggle to self-soothe in the moment, even when they know helpful strategies…
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Does Low Self-Esteem Contribute To Anxious Attachment in Adulthood
Ever notice how some people can’t stop worrying about whether their partner really cares or whether they’re going to be left? That’s what therapists call anxious attachment. It’s when you crave closeness but also fear it might not last. Low self-esteem can make this way more likely. When you don’t feel worthy or lovable deep…
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What is Low Self-Esteem
What Is Low Self-Esteem and Why It Happens We all have days when we feel a bit not good enough, but for some people that feeling sticks around much longer. That is what we usually mean by low self-esteem, a persistent sense that you are not enough, whether it is not smart enough, attractive enough,…